8 Helpful Tips To Deal With Negative People !

Do
you have any friends or colleagues who are negative? If so, you’ll know
they aren’t the most enjoyable people to be around. Negative people can
be real downers in any conversation. No matter what you say, they have a
way of spinning things in a negative direction. Some negative people
can be so negative that it feels draining just being around them.

1) Don’t get into an argument

One of the most important things I learned is not to debate with a
negative person. A negative person likely has very staunch views and
isn’t going to change that just because of what you said. Whatever you
say, he/she can find 10 different reasons to back up his/her viewpoint.
The discussion will just swirl into more negativity, and you pull
yourself down in the process. You can give constructive comments, and if
the person rebutts with no signs of backing down, don’t engage further.

2) Empathize with them

Have you ever been annoyed by something before, then have someone tell
you to “relax”? How did you feel? Did you relax as the person suggested
or did you feel even more worked up?
From my experience, people who are negative (or upset for that matter)
benefit more from an empathetic ear than suggestions/solutions on what
he/she should do. By helping them to address their emotions, the
solutions will automatically come to them (it’s always been inside them
anyway).

3) Lend a helping hand

Some people complain as a way of crying for help. They may not be
conscious of it though, so their comments come across as complaints
rather than requests. Take the onus to lend a helping hand. Just a
simple “Are you okay?” or “Is there anything I can do to help you?” can
do wonders.

4) Stick to light topics

Some negative people are triggered by certain topics. Our 1st instinct
with negative people should be to help bring them to a more positive
place (i.e. steps #2 and #3). But if it’s apparent the person is stuck
in his/her negativity, the unhappiness may be too deeply rooted to
address in a one-off conversation, or for you to help him/her unravel
it. Bring in a new topic to lighten the mood. Simple things like new
movies, daily occurrences, common friends, make for light conversation.
Keep it to areas the person feels positive towards.

5) Ignore the negative comments

One way to help the negative person “get it” is to ignore the negative
comments. If he/she goes into a negative swirl, ignore or give a simple
“I see” or “Ok” reply. On the other hand, when he/she is being positive,
reply in affirmation and enthusiasm. Do this often and soon he/she will
know positivity pays off. He/she will adjust to be more positive
accordingly.

6) Praise the person for the positive things

Negative people aren’t just negative to others. They’re also negative to
themselves. If you already feel negative around them, imagine how they
must feel all the time. What are the things the person is good at? What
do you like about the person? Recognize the positive things and praise
him/her for it. He/she will be surprised at first and might reject the
compliment, but on the inside he/she will feel positive about it. That’s
the first seed of positivity you’re planting in him/her and it’ll bloom
in the long-term.

7) Be responsible for your reaction

Whether the person is negative or not, ultimately you’re the one who is
perceiving the person is negative. When you recognize that, actually the
negativity is the product of your lens. Take responsibility for your
perceptions. For every trait, you can interpret it in a positive and a
negative manner. Learn to see the goodness of the person than the
negative. It may be tough initially, but once you cultivate the skill,
it becomes second nature.

8) Reduce contact with them / Avoid them (Believe me, this is the BEST solution I can suggest u [You must be registered and logged in to see this image.] )

If all else fails, reduce contact with them or avoid them altogether. If
it’s a good friend, let him/her know of the severity of the issue and
work it out where possible.
It’s not healthy to spend too much time with
people who drain you. Your time is precious, so spend it with people who
have positive effects on you. Don't waste your time & move on ! I
personally learned it from my own experience !

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8 Helpful Tips To Deal With Negative People !

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